Recently I explored relationships from the standpoint of the individuals involved, which is astrologically termed synastry. Each of the two people in a relationship is viewed individually for their personal relating potential. Once each is individually described, a comparison between the two describes the more intimate details of their story. However, there is more than one way to look at relationships. At the moment any pairing occurs, a new dynamic is produced which is termed a relationship. Relationships occur on so many levels: parent and child, marriage, boss and worker, teacher and student, siblings, in-laws, law and criminal, doctor and patient, stalker and victim, clergy and parishioner, to name a few.
Regardless of how many people we meet and the circumstances under which we meet them, in a split second of time a unique relationship is formed, one that did not exist prior to that moment and will cease to exist if the two people involved choose not to pursue it. Some of these meetings are brief such as a waitress handing you a cup of coffee. Some last a lifetime such as family members or marriage partners.
The bond that occurs between a mother and a child at the moment of birth is unique. After many years of refusing to allow the father to be present at the birth, the medical establishment currently encourages the father’s participation. The split-second bonding that the mother has always experienced is now available to the father. Yes! Nothing can equal that incredible moment and nothing can capture it once it has passed without the father’s participation. The mother really does not have a choice at childbirth; her participation is mandatory. Many years ago I took a workshop by Joseph Chilton Pearce in which this birth moment bonding process was explored. I immediately went home and told my son and his pregnant wife to be sure they were both part of the birthing process if it was at all possible. Many grandkids later, my whole family encourages this experience because of the bonding that occurs at the instant of birth.
Suppose I have ten friends. Each pairing provides a unique friendship. This takes nothing away from my other nine friends and enlarges each of our lives because of those friendships. I am bettered and my friend is bettered by our friendship. If I am a better person because of that friendship, I will be a better person to all my other friends, family, co-workers, etc. Whatever adds to my personal dimension in a positive fashion affects everything I do and everyone I touch with my more positive self. Conversely, if I am in a relationship that is negative, that negativity also affects all other relationships in which I participate if I am in any way diminished or compromised in the experience of that one relationship. I have been lessened therefore I am less than what I could be with all whom I come in contact.
To me there seem to be parts or stages …
With the wide variety of talk shows on the air, it would be nice to have questions outside the box. Here are some possible questions that fit this category:
1. When was the last time you were at a party, and decided to really pig out on the dip?
2. If you could choose a super power, would you choose the ability to read minds, or pour water really fast without spilling a drop?
3. What is the record amount of time you have gone without a shower?
4. What type of phone solicitation messages are you likely to listen to completely?
5. What kind of free gifts do you most crave?
6. What are some of the favorite names you call fellow drivers in a traffic jam?
7. What is your most memorable experience with cheese?
8. If you had a dime for every time someone called you a wart hog, would you be poor or rich?
9. Can you describe the smell of a really hot barn?
10. If you accidentally dropped the lid of the aspirin bottle into the toilet, would you fish it out or flush it down?
11. Are you satisfied with the shape of your tongue?
12. What is the purpose of the battery in a blade razor?
13. What is your favorite type of dried meat?
14. When you take photographs, do you make your subjects look at the camera?
15. Have you ever learned how to whittle?
16. Do you look for abandoned change in vending machines and pay phones?
17. What is the biggest gum wad you have ever chewed?
18. Where were you the last time you ripped your pants?
19. How many tissues can you fit in your mouth?
20. What kind of lessons are you willing to pay for?
21. How much would you bid for a Rembrandt painting?
22. Can you describe your most frustrating experience with plastic wrap?
23. What are your favorite types of hardware items?
24. Do you have a lucky shirt, and why is it lucky?
25. Where do you put your spare change?
26. How many times per week do you find yourself trying to identify certain odors?
27. What is the strangest thing you have ever done with a spoon?
28. How long would wicker furniture last in your house?
29. What are your favorite things to do with your fingers?
30. Have you ever written any graffiti, and if so, what was your favorite?
31. If you smell body odor, do you check to see if it is you?
There are a lot more, but I guess that is enough for now.…
When you're considering something as serious as buying some real estate, it's important to have everything in order in the sense that you do not want any unexpected surprises that will cost you money or even sour the entire deal. To that end, while it's a great idea to have a home inspector that can point out all the structural problems as well as anything else that you should know about, it's also a good idea to keep a little checklist yourself for personal reference because two sets of eyes are always better than one.
A property profile is a detailed checklist that will help you inspect and evaluate every home that you look at. You should use it as you walk through a house to form an educated opinion of the strengths and weaknesses of every house that you look at. Remember that it takes an experienced eye to see through a house that's dirty and neglected and this kind of checklist will help you to do just that. The profile can help you to see the underlying potential.
First off, look at the layout and floor plan. Take note of the special things like an unfinished attic that will be good for future renovation. Make sure to look and then check off the condition of the walls, cabinets and ceilings. Remember to mark off a special section for the appliances as well. While they can often be older in more mature homes or not top quality in newer places, they can save a first time buyer some cash in those first five years that are traditionally the most difficult. You'll want to make a profile for every home that you look at so that you can weigh the pros and cons of each to help make an informed decision in the end.
As the number of houses that you walk though increases, the pros and cons for each tend to blur together and having each home on a separate sheet will help you to tell them apart later. Spread the profiles out on a table later when you're done and then you'll be able to select those that you think warrant a second look. It's easiest if you make one master list before you start and then photo copy it so you'll have a blank template to work from as you go from house to house. Of course, some of the information will be on the listing sheet of the property, but it's still a good idea to verify that it's accurate. Make sure to take a close look-at the bottom of every listing sheet there's a disclaimer about accuracy.
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"It's weird," I thought. "We have ten people in two bathrooms at home. At the beach we often have 20 people using one bathroom. Why is it that half the number of bathrooms for double the user goes more smoothly? Pun intended of course.
Over the years I pondered this situation and saw over and again that it is true; one bathroom at the beach works even better than two at home. By implementing these bathroom-stretching ideas learned from the beach you can stretch your bathroom without adding on!
The most important principle is simply that at the beach bathroom usage is limited to things you can only do in a bathroom: personal hygiene, bathing, and using the toilet. At home we use the bathroom for so much more. We put on our makeup, style our hair, take our vitamins, do our nails, and many other things in the bathrooms that do not have to be done there. We also often common store things there like medicines in "medicine cabinets." In fact, many people even keep reading material by the toilet and call it the "library."
If you want to learn along with me from the beach, you could sum it up by saying, "Move it out." Here are 7 moving out ideas:
1. Store some regular Band-Aids in an easy access location. I have a small wooden basket with a leather handle that holds about a hundred Band-Aids (I have some Spiderman and plain ones there) and a tube of antibiotic salve hanging on the side of an iron shelf system near my kitchen. This keeps quick fixes the out of the bathroom and if they do need a sink and a paper towel they are nearby.
2. Keep over-the-counter and prescription medicines outside of the bathroom. Things for stomachaches, diarrhea, sore throats, eyes, and itches do not need to be kept in a bathroom. A bin or shelf near water is nice since many need to be taken with a sip of water.
3. Move out the other medicinal items like heating pads and thermometers too.
4. Set aside your hair care items to keep in a separate location. Try keeping your hot curlers, curling iron, and blow dryer along with a comb, brush, mirror, water bottle, and hair pretties (barrettes, clips, scrunchies, etc.) somewhere else. All you need nearby is a mirror and an electrical outlet.
5. Designate a "Fast Fixer Up Spot" near your departure door. Keep a hairbrush, comb, hair spray, and mirror near the door you tend to dash from. This is also nice to have when unexpected company comes calling and the bathroom is in use.
6. Make up does not have to be applied in a bathroom. Keep your beauty potions and toiletries somewhere with good natural light along with some wet wipes and a mirror.
7. If possible considering putting a wall and a door to separate the toilet and tub from the sinks. This greatly increases the bathroom's efficiency.
How many children do you have in your family? How big is your house? The more children you have, the more space is required. If there are too many people in a small house, everyone will feel uncomfortable. This is also true with hamsters. Once you decide to breed hamsters, you have to ensure that you can easily find new homes for the babies, or you will need to get enough cages to house the litter. Before you start breeding, you can talk to local pet shops or to friends, relatives, and co-workers to determine if they are willing to take some of the baby hamsters.
Cross breeding you should not be attempted. For instance, if you like Syrian hamsters, you will need to breed two Syrian hamsters. What if you only have a female or a male? This is not a problem. You can find another owner of a hamster of the same breed. Ask around your neighborhood or you can also ask for references from friends and acquaintances. Talk to the owner of the hamster and you can bring them with the agreement of sharing the load when it comes to finding homes for the babies!
The Syrian hamsters are more of the 'isolated' type and will want to live alone or in pairs. The dwarf hamsters are different. In fact, you can keep a few dwarf hamsters (of the same sex) in a cage, and they will tend to live harmoniously as they grow up together. Remember that once you've determined the gender of the hamsters, you will need to keep them in separate cages – one for the male and one for the female. You see, when the hamsters reach the 'mating' age, you can see how things unfold naturally.
To prevent cannibalism, you need to breed the females when they are already 4 to 6 months. It's not ideal to breed hamsters over six months old because birth complications can occur. In the case of the male, the ideal age for breeding is 2 to 3 months old. Here's another fact, the female becomes sterile when she reaches 14 months! So if you want to breed again using the same female, you can do so but try to space the births 3 to 4 months apart.
Some females get pregnant within several days of giving birth, but this is not ideal because it will only shorten their lives. This is because the female's body is not able to recuperate. In most cases, the female can produce two litters at certain time intervals, although there is a chance when she can produce more than that.
When promoting the Syrian, the female is really aggressive and so you will need to introduce the male when they are in season. Watch out for the scent that is usually given off at night by the female. This is the sign that she is ready to mate. Otherwise, the male can get killed. You need to learn about the oestrus …